No Marriage, No Baby!
Posted by: tony on 11/22/2007 02:08 AM
Updated by: tony on 11/28/2007 12:26 AM
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Expires: 12/23/2007 12:00 AM
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One of my absolutely favorite reads, Francis Parretto from Eternity Road has a challenge for American men:
I call upon black (70%) and white (25%) American men who father children and then, for whatever reason, do not marry the moms, to step up to the plate, flash the middle finger at the government give-aways and say, "We are men and we will take responsibility for our children. These children are our future - the future of our nation. I want my children to carry my last name by law."
I know American men can do this. And clearly 75% of white fathers and 30% of black fathers are being fathers in the most legal and legitimate ways possible. Cut down on the unwed mother population, cut down on the bastard population. Since the women seem not to want to be responsible, then American men must become a dominant force again and say, "No babies UNLESS we are married!"
In other words, men saying to the women, "You can't use me as a sex object to give you a child and keys to the welfare trough then kick me to the curb. No marriage, no babies!"
Now, wouldn't that be a great switch? Male dominance, birth control (not abortion), and the men putting their foot down - No marriage, no baby!
What a switch. Let me add to this. "I will not trust you to use artificial birth control. I will not use a condom that might break. I will not have sex with you and take a chance on producing children until we are married".
What also needs to happen is a change in "no fault" divorce laws. We need to stop single party (usually the woman) action against men, sometimes with unprovable allegations of "emotional abuse" just to kick him out of his house and take him to the cleaners, stealing his money and not allowing him appropriate access to his children.
Government is culpable in this problem. If men step up to the plate and get married, they need to be protected. What a strange juxtaposition of the way marriage used to be, a financial protection for a woman who gave up her earning potential to take care of a man's home for him. But currently, marriage is a danger for a man, and many men are not stepping up to the marriage plate because of the financial danger he puts himself in by doing so. Beside, in todays "sex and the city" society, why should a man "buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free".
Because it's the right thing to do for the woman, and any children she and he produce.
Update: Mea culpa. It wasn't Fran Parretto who wrote this, it was Conservative Beach Girl (who writes at Eternity Road sometimes). I've been meaning to talk to Fran about the fact that the authors of the articles don't appear in his RSS feed which I use to do most of my blogging.
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